Excellence in Sexual Purity

Excellence in Sexual Purity

“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Heb. 13:4

It is a clear fact that God designed sexual relations for marriage to effect intimacy among couples and to model the depths of Christ’s love for the church, His bride and more so, the heights of glory yet to be experienced by all of us in that union.

But it is also a fact that sexual purity is a major struggle among young people. This is because the youthful age is a period of growth and preparation of body hormones, some of which are responsible for sexual drive. This is also because of the characteristic strength and ‘hyper’ activity attributed to that stage of life. A third reason why young people face troubles with staying pure sexually is because everyone around in the world seems to be crazy and careless about sex. Or, in the words of a sorrowful and confused Christian guy, “…the whole atmosphere is sexually charged!”


Yet it is in this same world; where purity is unpopular, where illicit sex and profane words are the order of the day, where pornography is cheap and corrupt movies are a click away on the devices in your pocket, where half – naked ladies and gents parade the streets and campuses, where secret affairs are even obtainable in Christian groups that God calls us to be chaste (pure) and consecrated to Him. I often say this with a deep sense of awe, humility and trembling; Christianity is a higher calling!


What does Sexual Purity Entail?

  1. Keeping oneself from having sex as an unmarried person. (Fornication)
  2. Keeping oneself from having sex with a partner who is not your husband/wife. Notice the terms husband/wife, not fiancé / fiancée. (Adultery)
  3. Shutting out impure, unwholesome thoughts (Prov. 4:23)
  4. Avoiding provocative, lascivious movies, books and pictures.
  5. Restraining from using one’s own body as a means to derive pleasure (Masturbation)
  6. Tuning off careless jesting and profane conversations.
  7. Dressing modestly and not in a way that reveals sensitive body parts.

This, no doubt is a higher calling. When we were raised up with Christ to heavenly places far above principalities and powers as we became born again, it was an all time, all high rising. (Eph. 2:6, Eph. 1:21) We must live in the reality of our new status – aspire and practice excellence in sexual purity. IMG-20170521-WA0000


Tips for Staying Sexually Pure

  1. Resolve to stay pure. There is power in resolutions coupled with divine grace, remember the Hebrew boys in Babylon. (Dan. 1:8) Regardless of what mistakes and experiences you have had in the past, ask Jesus for a new beginning today and stick with it. If you are one that keeps diaries, think of marking this date with something like this, “I resolve to consecrate and keep my body pure for the Lord from this day onward. No turning back. So help me God.”
  2. Soak yourself in the word of God. Daily study of God’s word has the essential vitamins and antibodies to fight and overcome sexual temptations. (Ps. 119: 9, 11)
  3. Pray in the spirit always. Pray in tongues and in understanding. This edifies you and attacks the enemy of your soul!
  4. Flee sexual advances. Flee from every appearance of evil. The fight for sexual purity is an active one. Be on the offensive always, guard your heart. Guard against careless jokes and jesting. Be ready to walk away. Be ready to turn off your phone. Be ready to say no. And don’t just be ready, actually do these things.
  5. Keep clear boundaries. Define all your relationships. Being indulgent to others does not make you nice. Uphold your standards, this is actually honorable.
  6. Be wise. The world is evil, Jesus exhorts us to be wise as serpent and harmless as dove. Avoid staying in lonely or dark places with an opposite sex. Avoid excess gifts or unprotected food from others. Notice advances and overtures guard against these. Avoid keeping late nights and hanging out in risk – prone environments.
  7. Be active in God’s service, career development and humanitarian activities. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Be at the right place at the right time.

Ultimately, always remember and rejoice in God’s deep and unfathomable love for you. God delights and glories in our purity. “The Lord your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.” Zeph. 3: 17. Ask the Lord to reveal His love to you more – its glory, its quickening and its depth. I am not sure that we can know it all on this side of eternity! This is a privilege of our high calling. 🙂

This is written with much love from me to you, dear excellent reader.

Exceller Quotes 1

Exceller Quotes 1

‘More’ does not necessarily mean ‘Better’

“…But godliness with contentment is great gain.”

The road that trails backward leads to no place worth being!

“…Forgetting what is behind and pressing towards the mark of the upward calling of God in Christ.”

Learn to finish. Discipline yourself to finish. 

“…But he that endures to the end shall be saved.”

The Priestess of Onuma

The Priestess of Onuma


Once upon a time,

I was the priestess of Onuma, the god of Vengeance

Onuma was a deity greatly feared by men.

Not him alone, but his worshippers also

For he was known to uphold justice

And mete out harsh punishment to deserving culprits.

His anger was like roaring thunders

He ruled his subjects with an iron fist.

Mercy was never known with him,

Compassion was an outlaw.

People feared him more than they respected.

His name and shrine was avoided like a plague.

The sacrifices they brought to me, his priestess

Were more like bribes than love offerings.

Two kinds of people frequented the shrine of Onuma

The deeply hurt and the cruelly pervert

The former were people who had been wronged.

Men and women suffering from a broken heart

And desiring that their offenders’ be broken too.

Onuma did as they asked

But I, the priestess often wondered

If a potter ever mended a broken pot by shattering more pottery

“Blood for blood, sword for sword”, they snarled

Onuma, typically stirred, obliged them.

The cruelly pervert also sought justice at our shrine

Or would you rather, in-just-ice.

For they came, looking innocent and naïve

And told tales that sounded rather juicy and inciting

They too spelt judgment on their fellow men

And not a few fell victim of their lies and Onuma’s wrath

For Onuma, with all his good intentions

Yet lacked discernment

Of the true nature of man’s heart.

Perhaps I was the only loyal follower of the god Onuma

For many a mornings,

My voice was heard crying out his adulations

And late night watchers could easily spot my footprints

As they trailed into the deep bushes.

Until I observed that the wicked was blessed by Onuma

And he never did heal any heart or home.

Until I observed a striking contrast

Between the countenance of Onuma’s worshipers

And those who served only Chi-ukwu, the Almighty.

The former were pissed, anxious and grim

The latter; free, generous and in bliss.

I wondered and sought and learned

And what I learned tore me bare.

Chi-ukwu seemed to me like a paradox, a mystery:

How could One uphold rightness and love

Recompense and forgiveness

Justice and mercy

And never leave anyone unsatisfied?

How could a deity be equally revered and loved?

How could a king be a shepherd, a judge and a father?

He punished the wicked

But none of his followers demanded vengeance of themselves.

In fact, they forgave in advance

And repaid evil with good.

They gave a cup of water to strangers

And never required repay for the good they did.

My discoveries astonished me greatly

But they also drew me in…

I crept into his temple in the shadows

In fear that anyone else will see me, a disloyal priestess.

But no one seemed to notice or judge me

For they all seemed captivated in adoration.

I waited, I listened till the tears dropped

And I knew that there was no going back for me.

However, I was told with a pat

That I could not serve two masters at a time;

“If you are in, you will have to be all in”

That same night,

I took the toughest decision ever with great ease.

Talk about paradoxes.

I ran back with sprinting feet and light weight

I pulled down the altar of Onuma

Broke the pots of herbs and roots

Gathered cowries and priestly costumes

And with a match-stick, set all ablaze.

As they burned and villagers stared,

Something deep stirred in my belly

I fell to my knees and wept:

Tears of relief that a stronghold had been broken.

Tears of sorrow that I had represented an error for so long.

Tears of resolve that henceforth, I will follow only Chi-ukwu.

Bent over in ashes, people’s drowning voices and my own grief

I didn’t see but felt

Two pairs of hands draw me up into warm embrace

And cover me with some blanket.

I sniffed, I looked and recognized

They were followers of Chi-ukwu

Apparently, they had seen me in the temple earlier

And had come to stand by me now.

I managed to signal towards the temple,

They nodded in understanding.

Together we made our way away from Onuma to Chi-ukwu

Followed by a handful of spectators,

Some merely curious, some deeply affected.

This time around,

I enter into his courts through the door

With deliberate, decisive steps.

I make my way to the altar and kneel

I begin to feel forgiven and relieved

I am caught up in the wonder of His love

Something in my guts tells me

That this is a good thing.

I will follow Chi-ukwu all my days

I will be His priestess

I will sing His praises

I will be just

I will be loving

I will be forgiving

I will be happy

I will be free.





(In the past you were spiritually dead because of your disobedience and sins. At that time you followed the world’s evil way; you obeyed the ruler of the spiritual powers in space, the spirit who now controls the people who disobey God. Actually all of us were like them and lived according to our natural desires, doing whatever suited the wishes of our own bodies and minds. In our natural condition we, like everyone else, were destined to suffer God’s anger.  But God’s mercy is so abundant, and his love for us is so great, that while we were spiritually dead in our disobedience he brought us to life with Christ. It is by God’s grace that you have been saved. In our union with Christ Jesus he raised us up with him to rule with him in the heavenly world. He did this to demonstrate for all time to come the extraordinary greatness of his grace in the love he showed us in Christ Jesus. For it is by God’s grace that you have been saved through faith. It is not the result of your own efforts, but God’s gift, so that no one can boast about it. God has made us what we are, and in our union with Christ Jesus he has created us for a life of good deeds, which he has already prepared for us to do. Ephesians 2:1‭-‬10 GNB)