Identity Crisis 3

Identity Crisis 3


None of the aforementioned is bad in itself. It is cool to have good looks, a loving spouse, a calm personality, the support of good friends, to be intelligent, be talented, be spiritually sound, have intelligent protégé and a thriving career. All of these are blessings from our loving Father who blesses us with all things richly to enjoy.

But all these are only what? Blessings.

Sometimes, these blessings subtly become idols, so we must keep checking. Nothing compares to the great treasure of knowing Christ and being known by Him. Like Apostle Paul, we must count all things as unimportant because of the excellency of knowing Christ and being found in Him having the righteousness of God that is based on nothing we have done but completely based on faith in Jesus.

Each time, our mouths and hearts should unreservedly be able to echo 3 things:

  • “I am what I am today only by the grace of God.”
  • “Without God, I can do nothing but I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
  • “For me, to live is Christ but to die is even better. It is no longer I that lives but Christ that lives in me. The life that I now live in this body, I live by faith in Jesus who loved me and gave Himself for me.”

This here, beloved, is correct identification. Anything beyond this boundary is an identity crisis. But if our lives uphold these 3 truths, we have found identity. In Christ!foot of d cross2

Identity Crisis 2

Identity Crisis 2

In the following lines, I will attempt to paint some pictures of people in different life stages but all with a clash of identity, contrary to the definition of Identity for a Christian Exceller put up in the previous post.face id


All through your childhood, there was a lot of fuss about your good looks. Everyone seemed to adore you; ‘Oh, such a cute boy’, ‘Darlington is fine, he is my friend.’ And so on. So, everything seemed to go your way. As you grew older, you learned and perfected the art of seduction and people-manipulation. You know what they say, Power is addictive and intoxicating. Especially with the female folks, many of whom you realized were particularly gullible. Then, you lost respect for fellow human, you enjoyed the short – lived power of using people and you invested more in keeping up good looks.

Would it be that you push on so far because deep down, you fear that the good looks is all you have – the only reason why anyone would notice you?

Identity Crisis.


As a little girl, you dreamed of the forever-love. You thought you found it with Ali, so you knotted hands with him and walked down the aisle. But it turns out that although Ali loves you, he loves something more (maybe God, his job, his football club, fast cars or anything else). So your hopes are dashed. The identity you sought as someone’s Number 1…goes down the drain. So, displeasure turns to sadness, to disappointment, to anger and bitterness and finally to resolve. You decide to “marry” something else too. Although you still wear Ali’s ring, you turn to your children, your job or ministry to give your life meaning.

But was your life supposed to be defined by your relationship with Ali in the first place?

Identity crisis.


You have never really been a loud talker, never been among the popular cheerleaders. Your favourite place has always been the back seat in class or close to the library shelves or the street corners with other low – key people who don’t intimidate you. You do not want to strife with the loud cheer-leading group, therefore you give yourself an identity with the shade of ash. You know, not black, not white. Just somewhere in the middle.

When God spurs you to do something outside your comfort zone, you simply back out. You would rather prefer to keep it cool at all times, in the shadows. But, really? Fear of the limelight just might be an identity crisis.


You are with the “in – people”. The campus – shakers. The company VIPs. The crème de la crème of the society. And guess what? You have the classiest friends – others just like you. You see yourself as one who has a good understanding of things with a clique of best friends who could make everyone else in the pack appear insignificant.

But whenever you are not with your friends, you begin to feel quite lonely and irrelevant. Not as important as you used to feel.

Have your friends become your identity? I’m afraid, you may have an identity crisis.


For you, your relevance is perceived in how high your IQ is, how high your examination result scores are or how well you perform at your job.


Everyone knows that you are a skilled instrumentalist, great at working on appliances, at painting and drawing artworks. But if this talent of yours is taken from you, will anything be left of your self-image?

Identity crisis.


All the energy you invest in career development and pushing to the apex of your professional field is quite commendable. But what if your career changes, can you still walk with your head raised and your shoulders high? Identity crisis.


Your kids are high fliers and you are naturally proud of them. But will you do a correct assessment to understand that those kids are only under your charge from God and that what you mean to God is much deeper?


When your ministry and work for God and their fruits become more valuable to you than your faith in what Jesus has done for you – the free gift of salvation…

Identity crisis.

Are any of these evil in themselves? What constitutes correct identification for a Christian Exceller? The next post concludes with thoughts to answer these all important questions.

Identity Crisis 1

Identity Crisis 1

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I have to confess that there are some spiritual truths that I struggled to understand as I was growing up. No matter how well they were taught or how many bible verses were expounded in teaching them, I never really could apply those truths to my personal, everyday life.

One of them is the message of the Cross (how the cross of Jesus can become life to a person). The other is the message of finding one’s identity in Christ.

What identity? Why did I need something to identify me?

During my teenage years, I had a lot of godly women who told us passionately; “Find your identity in Jesus. Find your identity in Jesus.” But what did it practically mean for a regular Christian school boy or girl, Christian parent or spouse, Christian civil servant, company worker or entrepreneur to find their identity in Christ?

I’m not going to act like I have now fully understood the concept. No. Not yet. But it has begun to make some meaning.

As a matter of fact, God’s expectation is that we find definition, meaning and drive for our lives from knowing that He is our loving Father and that Jesus is our Saviour and Lord. That should be our identity. Period. (John 17:3, I Cor. 15:10a) Everything else that you are and everything else that you have in life must fall as a shadow under this light.

I think that the biggest problem with Identity crisis is that most people who have this crisis do not even know that much of their struggle in life is to meet this singular need – Identity.

In the next post in this series, I will attempt to paint word-pictures of people in different life stages and situations but all facing a clash of identity.

Stay with me, dear reader friend.